I am so grateful form my temple marriage. It is more than just a civil marriage where two people can jump in and out of a relationship at will. A temple marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman, and God. Not only am I married for this life, but I am married for eternity. “They must keep their covenants without knowing what risks that may require of them. They must surrender unconditionally, obeying God and sacrificing for each other. They will discover what Alma called “incomprehensible joy”.” -Bruce C. Hafen, Covenant Marriage. This quote was used to describe Adam and Eve but is very applicable to any marriage.
From The Family: A Proclamation to the World we learn that marriage is ordained of God. We know that He intends the family to be eternal. And we know that the family is central to the plan of salvation. The plan of happiness cannot be complete without a family. Because he knew how important marriage would be, He chose Adam and Eve to be an example of how we should life if we want to return to him. “The life of Adam and Eve is the story of receiving the Atonement.” -Bruce C. Hafen of the Seventy.
As members of the Church, we understand our pre-mortal lives were a chance for us to grow, develop, and prepare for our part here in mortality. While we were there we lived with Heavenly father. He knew our strengths and weaknesses and pre-destined us for specific needs. Adam and Eve were chosen to be our first parents. Heavenly father must have been confident enough in them that they would succeed. If we mirror our lives to theirs we can have happy, successful families.
A friend of mine shared advice he received from a youth leader. “My belief is that if you are going to the temple often (and you are going worthily) then you are required to live a higher law. The things you do each day to be worthy to enter the temple will help your marriage. I had a young men’s leader that told me that a mission should not be my goal at that time in my life… (I was very shocked but listened). He explained that the temple should be every young man and woman’s goal because if it is then we will want to have good values and morals. He also explained that if our goal is the temple then 9 times out of 10 a mission will follow.”-Daniel
The same idea can be applied to marriage. If a couple makes it a priority to go to the temple, their marriage will be strengthened. In the talk What I hope You Would Teach Your Children About the Temple by Ezra Taft Benson we are told some of the blessings we receive from going to the temple. They are:
- You will be blessed with the spirit of Elijah. Your heart will turn to your children, spouse and forbearers.
- You will love your family deeper than you have loved before.
- You will be endowed with power from on high as the lord promised.
- You will receive knowledge. Learn how to be like Him, power of godliness will be manifest to you.
- You will be doing a great service to those who have passed to the other side of the veil in order that they might be “judged according to men in the flesh, but live according to God in the spirit.
The Family: A Proclamation to the World
What I Would Hope You Would Teach Your Children About the Temple